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A Small Tweak Can Make All the Difference

After a little more than a year of being a stay at home mom, I was feeling worn down and terrible about myself. Like any mother of a toddler and breastfeeding infant, I was tired. More than anything, I felt like I was maybe not cut out to be a stay at home wife. Sure I was getting better at cooking, I love being there for my children, I did not miss the conflict between work and home that I felt as a working mother, but I was feeling like Cinderella all the time and tired of being a maid in my own house. I was frustrated that I was always cleaning and things keep piling up again sometimes even sooner than I can clean up. I was getting increasingly frustrated at my husband for not picking up his clothes off the floor and into the laundry basket and having to do everything. At least Cinderella had a fairy godmother; my fairy godmother was never going to come. I had to rescue my damn self.

I don’t usually make New Year resolutions but I decided that this year I need to change something permanently. I still have only 24 hours in a day, a son, a daughter, a husband to take care of, but I needed to give more to ME this year. So starting in January, I told my husband that I was going to spend less time on cleaning and start a fitness habit. I gained quite a bit of weight with the two pregnancies and while I didn’t know how I was going to find the time to take care of myself when something as basic as going to the bathroom and taking a shower seems to be a challenge sometimes. Around the end of January I started on my new routine.

Now a little less than two months into this I can tell you that the difference I feel is tremendous. I feel like one of the luckiest women in the world just about everyday. I have a lot more calm and energy at the same time. I don’t have a perfect regime but I remind myself that it is a new lifestyle that I am trying to establish and no lifestyle is perfect. Exercise is the ultimate ME time!

What is it that you would change about your day-to-day routine to make it better for you?


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Book Review: What To Eat

I am a practical soul and not big on nostalgia. I am not an old lady yet but I don’t think that I will be the kind to reminisce about the good old days. Maybe it is because I have a pretty decent memory, so when I look back, I see the good and the bad.

In some ways, there is a price to pay for having more choices. The one thing that I felt that I needed to learn to be a good mother and housewife is nutrition. I have a responsibility to be the gatekeeper and provider of healthy food made or procured with love and intelligence for my family. One of the things that my parents’ and my grandparents’ generation did not have to wade through is a huge food industry and all the complexities that comes with it. When I was growing up in Taiwan my grandparents took me to the marketplace and it was a crowded and messy (I remember having to hold on tight so I don’t get lost in the crowd!). A lot of the producer we purchased were straight from the grower. We have even purchase green onions right off the local farm. These days, that simply does not happen and you get your foods prepackaged up at the supermarket. Today, you have different labels and reading food labels require some knowledge before you can actually comprehend it. It can be a confusing and frustrating exercise and difficult choices need to be made. All this while you juggle your babies is not so easy.

I enjoyed reading What To Eat by nutritionist Marion Nestle. It was like the scales fell of my eyes as I read this book. I will never look at the supermarket products the same again. I am a more discriminating shopper and more aware of how I spend my food dollars as a result. I also make more food from scratch and avoid pre-processed foods in some cases. I also spend more of my money on organic foods. I understand and appreciate the politics and context behind what goes into the food labeling as a result of the education that this book gave me. I highly recommend reading Marion Nestle’s book as well as following her blog at Food Politics.